Danny Rahim — On Sobriety, Identity & ADHD

A deep, honest conversation with Danny about getting sober, what alcohol really does, and what comes after.

Live conversation guide
Danny Rahim

Tick questions as you go. Follow the arc loosely — let Danny lead, use this to catch what matters.

~60 min Avoid: politics Remote recording

Opening intro — read aloud

"Today's guest is someone I've had the privilege of knowing for years — and honestly, someone I'd call one of the most inspiring people in my life. We met working together — and although we worked in very different departments and you'd think we'd be clashing heads, we were instead completely aligned on what actually mattered. Since then, we've been catching up on growth, mental health, and self-development — and at one point, I even brought him in as a coach for a company I was working with. So I've watched this man's journey up close. My guest today is Danny Rahim — Award Winning Mindset & Performance Coach and Founder of Elev8 Human Performance. Danny, welcome to Grow with the Flo."

💡 After the welcome, pause — let him settle. Then move straight into: "Tell me your growth story — where does it begin for you?"

His story &
adversity

Sober 365
journey

Habits &
change

Coaching &
purpose

Promo &
close

⚠

Steer clear of: politics (Danny's request) · referencing specific book titles (Atomic Habits etc.) · overwhelming the sobriety thread — it's one chapter, not the whole story

01 · Opening

His story & the growth origin

~10 min

"Tell me your growth story — where does it begin for you?"

Pure open door. Let him set the frame — he'll likely go to his mum's mental illness and losing his dad. Don't rush it.

Anchor

"When did that adversity shift from something happening to you, to something shaping you?"

The turning point question — every growth story has one. This is it.

Deep

"You've since built a coaching business and an acting career. Looking back — which parts of who you are came directly from what you went through?"

Links adversity directly to his professional identity. Turns biography into insight.

Deep

"Growth often means letting things go — jobs, friendships, environments that no longer fit. Has your journey meant drawing a line under anything or anyone significant?"

Connects his sobriety story (triggering people/places) with the broader growth theme. Very relatable.

Deep

02 · Sober 365

The journey, the triggers, the identity shift

~15 min

"Take me back to day one. What was the moment you decided this was the year?"

Simple, story-first. Binge drinking, anxiety, hangovers — let him bring it. Don't front-load the context.

Anchor

"One thing I noticed early on was how deliberately you set yourself up — recognising the obstacles, removing what needed to go, then thinking about reintegrating. Was that instinctive, or a strategy you'd used before?"

Reference to his early Sober 365 content. Great coaching insight — remove the alcohol from the cabinet, then figure out the pub.

Deep

"Alcohol is everywhere — airports, beer gardens, every event. When you ordered a soda water and everyone else had a pint — what did that actually feel like? Did you get the look?"

Light, warm entry into the social pressure thread. Best moments come from specific scenes — invite him to be concrete. Happy hours, society normalising drinking.

Deep

"You went to a Taco & Tequila night on day 21, and didn't miss the drink. What did that feel like — when did it stop being an effort and start being just… you?"

The identity shift moment. This is when habit becomes character. A beautiful question to sit in.

Deep

"You talked about sitting with difficult news — the moment where before, you'd have called a friend, found a pub, had a drink. What does it feel like now to just sit with it, without the escape hatch?"

Emotionally honest. Universally relatable — everyone has an escape mechanism. Connects alcohol to the broader topic of coping.

Deep

"We tell ourselves 'once I sort this, everything will be better.' But I've learned that's not always how it goes. What's been harder than you expected?"

Invites nuance and honesty. The real podcast gold lives here. Don't rush past silence.

Deep

💬 Share your own story here if it feels right — mostly sober 3 years, anxiety as the turning point, lifestyle reset. Invite him to reflect on whether he'd drink again.

03 · Habits & Change

The psychology of doing the hard thing consistently

~10 min

"You're posting daily videos and staying sober — is that giving you energy, or at some point does that level of public accountability start becoming its own pressure?"

Honest, slightly uncomfortable. Great for showing Danny as a real person navigating this, not a guru with all the answers.

Deep

"We rarely reach for a vice for the sensation — we reach for the feeling it gives us. Can you walk me through what that actually looks like? The cue, the craving, the response, the reward?"

The habit loop in his own words — without naming the book. The insight, not the reference.

Deep

"Most people believe you form a new habit in 21 days. Research actually puts it closer to 66. You're past day 30 — what has genuinely shifted, and what still takes effort?"

The 66-day fact is the one stat worth dropping on air — most people quit at week three and think they failed, when biologically they weren't even halfway.

Deep

"It's easy to hold a new habit in your normal environment. But then you travel, the routine breaks, everything shifts. How do you handle that?"

Relevant to both of you. Also opens the question of how his daily video habit survives disruption — interesting meta layer.

Deep

"You talked about compounding progress — on day 19, noticing how the efforts were stacking. Can you feel that from the inside, or do you only see it looking back?"

Connects to his own content and your shared experience with consistent growth work.

Deep

"How do you handle a bad day on a long journey? Not a relapse — just the days where the voice says 'what's the point?'"

Universal. One of the most shareable moments of the episode. Don't fill the silence after this one.

Deep

04 · Coaching & Purpose

What he does, why it works, where he's going

~10 min

"You mentioned that reconnecting with your own meaning and purpose made the business grow. What actually changed — and how do you know the difference between purpose-driven work and just staying busy?"

One of the richest questions in the episode. Links his personal journey directly to his professional success.

Anchor

"You've supported over 2,000 people. What do most people get wrong about what coaching actually is — and what it can genuinely do?"

His moment to define his craft without it feeling like an elevator pitch. Let him own it.

Deep

"I hired you as a coach for a company I worked with. I want to be honest about what that was like for me — and ask you: what do you see in people when they first show up?"

Personal moment. Uses your shared history as an anchor. Good place for you to share your experience of being coached.

"You went to a World Meaning and Purpose Summit in Madrid. What drew you there — and what did you take away?"

Optional — use if the conversation is flowing in that direction. Good for showing Danny's investment in the ideas behind his work.

Deep

05 · ADHD

The diagnosis that reframed everything

~5 min · weave in naturally

"You were diagnosed with ADHD last year. Has that felt like a revelation, a challenge, or something else entirely — and how has it changed how you see your own story?"

The obstacle vs superpower question. ADHD brains are wired for novelty and reward-seeking — that's the drinking link, but also possibly the drive behind his coaching career and the Sober 365 challenge itself.

Deep

"Looking back at the binge drinking through the lens of the ADHD diagnosis — does it make more sense now? Does it change how you feel about it?"

Reframes it neurologically, not morally. Biology, not weakness. Powerful moment of self-compassion in the story.

Deep

06 · Promo + Close

Give Danny his space, then land it

~5 min

"When you think about growth — everything you've been through, everything you're building — what's the one message you'd leave behind for someone on that journey right now?"

The GwtF signature close. Ask it, then stop. Don't fill the silence. His answer ends the episode.

For Danny

Thank you for growing with me.

We met in an unlikely place — two people from very different worlds who turned out to be completely aligned on the things that actually matter. Growth. Honesty. The willingness to do the hard work.

I've watched your journey up close — and what strikes me most isn't the coaching business, the app, the acting career, or the Sober 365 challenge. It's the consistency with which you show up for yourself, and the generosity with which you show up for others.

In this conversation, I hope we get to explore the things that make your story worth telling —

Turning adversity into advantage 365 days of showing up The psychology of lasting change Finding meaning in the work Understanding your own mind

— and the quiet truth behind all of them: that growth is rarely linear, rarely comfortable, and almost always worth it.

Thank you for being someone I can learn from. Thank you for trusting me with your story. And thank you for reminding me — just by doing what you do — that it's always possible to grow with the Flo.

— Flo

Grow with the Flo · 2025